July 31 - He is gone. He is still on breathing machines. But... he is no longer with us. We've already said our good-byes and know there is nothing more than to bring deep sorrow on more. We all need to strengthen ourselves, as we know it's not the end. It never will be.
On Saturday, the harvest is over. It is done. The machines are no longer supporting him and he is released to the coroner. (So cold...)
There is a whole boatload full of emotional and verbal drama that happens when someone dies. Between the cremation versus burial and other final decisions, it really sucks. I sure couldn't imagine it all. But it happened to us/me. There is so much more when it is a blended family, it's impossible to fathom. And even without a blended family, when parents are divorced, if the other parent takes over... One gets left out. In the dark.
Sometimes, people cry for attention. They seem to make a death about them, and not the person who died. Of course... more drama ensues, and we all try to handle it. Emotions are raging. They are not pretty. And with all of our tear-stained faces, neither are we.
Skipping some of it... It seems like I am being biased or underspoken, I'm sure. Don't worry. I'm not. I just need (for me) to understand and know that some people may be reading this that are participants. No... they will never see themselves as monstrous or verbally abusive, or hateful, so I'll just go with this. I just don't want to stir up more drama NOW. So... we'll jump to a bit later, as I also don't want to re-stir up the anger and frustration within me again...
There have been fundraisers to support the final services... and I am preparing baked goods for a food fundraiser on Saturday, August 9th...
A little bit before 9am, my cell rings. It is the mom. I think, "I am rushing the best I can. Dang it. It doesn't even start until 2pm!!!" Only... She tells me I need to wake my husband; his mother has died.
Unbelievable. Only 9 days after his son. And now his mom? No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We haven't even had time to heal. And my heart breaks more.
Lisa, my heart breaks for your suffering and your family. I am so sorry to hear of all the tragedy. I am glad you have here to vent. I am with you when bad things are going on in my life, I avoid social media. I am rarely the one to be the first to post "the news" and I hardly ever even ask for prayers because I don't want to go into it. Bless you and your family and healing will come, eventually....
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